My opinion is if the game only makes you frustrated when you play, you shouldn't play. I always try to find some way to have fun when I log in. If there is no pk or smobbing going on, I try to amuse myself over narrates. If there is no one to talk to, then I just guard the well/courtyard and tab out to amuse myself some other way.
It may be easier for me because:
1. I only started playing a couple years ago. I wasn't here for the glory days of over 100 people being logged on, so the lower population doesn't depress me as much.
2. I only play abs characters so I don't care when I lose my eq.
3. I don't care how others treat me or play the game because it's just text and at the end of the day, I just don't give a shit
Hope you stick around, but if you are only getting bad energy from the game, find something else that makes you happy!